Some articles state five stages of grief and loss exist, and others say seven do. Of course, some are worded differently, but each covers mainly the same emotions. To begin, let’s list the two variations:
1. Denial and isolation
1. Shock and denial
2. Pain and guilt
3. Anger and bargaining
4. Depression, reflection, loneliness
5. The upward turn
6. Reconstruction and working through
7. Acceptance and hope
Both number ones deal with denial, but the five stages adds isolation, and seven adds shock. Both are correct, and I will discuss how we who grieve face all three. Both lists have anger and bargaining, but five has them separate, and seven combines them. Both have depression, and seven adds reflection and loneliness. Both have acceptance, but seven adds two steps that lead to acceptance and hope.
The stages do not always occur in order. Some stages last longer than others. Grief and sorrow affect individuals differently because of emotions, experiences. No one reacts like another person. I wish to cover each step as I’ve experienced it, the order I took, lessons I learned. I lost a baby girl, my parents, grandparents, and my reactions for each loss were different. The hardest has been the loss of my husband, and I will use that grief mostly in my blog entries for the next several posts, hoping to help others that face a heartache so wrenching.