Wednesday, April 6, 2011

What is the penalty for stealing trust?

All right, I guess I'm a sucker, the one born every minute. I trust too easily, apparently, and I get hurt as a result. The first time I trusted and was burned happened long, long ago. I tried not to be that sucker again, but I was over and over, but to lesser degrees. I didn't completely trust unconditionally.

Then about seven years ago, I allowed myself to be persuaded that someone really cared about me. I was leery at first, but over time, I found myself caring about a young woman very much, as if she were an adopted daughter. Oh, I didn't lose anything material-wise. In fact she gave to me, and gave and gave, even when I wanted her not to give more.

No, what I lost was emotional. I grew to care so much, and she dropped out of my life without warning over a year ago, never to be heard from or of again. The last message I received said she would be in touch more often.

She didn't steal anything of material worth, not at all, just my faith and trust.

Did I learn? Oh, no, not me. I think I can trust a man who rebuilds computers. I send him money, paid out the expense before he sent the laptop, one I need so much. Then it never comes. I contact him, and he has a credible excuse, promises to have it to me by a certain date. Then he has another excuse, and I don't have a laptop. Now he's not available, and neither is my laptop or money.

But what hurts most is my trust was stolen again. What's the saying? Live and learn? I think I've finally learned.


Roseanne Dowell said...

I'm so sorry this happened to you. There are such ruthless people in this world.

The Hermit said...

Sad that she never looked-you up since then. :(

I can relate, but I can't learn.

Hugs to you and Speedy. xox


Rena said...

Been there, done that. And, with people I should be closest to. I'm sorry this happened to you, Vivian.

4RV Publishing said...

I'm hoping that all will come out well in the long run. I guess I'm still a sucker, but I'll not trust quite so easily or so much.

LK Hunsaker said...

It's sad that we have to learn not to trust, but I'm there, too.

4RV Publishing said...

I still haven't gotten a laptop or any other excuses. I'm trying to learn to be more cautious, but ...